You Have Weddings, We Have Funerals

My brother with our aunt at his high school grad. Her hair had just started growing back after chemo treatments. Both were gone 1 1/2 years after this picture was taken.

My brother with our aunt at his high school grad. Her hair had just started growing back after chemo treatments. Both were gone 1 1/2 years after this picture was taken.

This has become somewhat of a saying in our family. Over 80% of my cousins over the age of 18 are married, with one recently engaged. That percentage lowers to around 70% if you include my brothers and I in that number.

I have attended 7 viewing services (a service the evening before a funeral), and 6 funerals for 8 different people and I’m only 23 years old. There are some other funerals I may have gone to if it worked with my schedule and on the location. In contrast, I’ve attended only 12 weddings.

This past week has made me aware of the divide between my life and the lives of those I graduated high school with about five years ago. Two people I know got engaged this past week and a couple people I know had children. On the opposite side, I found out that the mother of one of my best friends has been diagnosed with colon cancer, possibly stage 4. Right now they are saying it’s stage 3 but there are some spots on her liver that they’re not sure about. I’ve met my friend’s mom several times.

While people my age are getting married and having kids, I’m wondering when the next funeral I’ll be attending will happen and worrying about getting tests done to finally get diagnosed with a condition that will make me struggle with infertility if I ever decide to get married and try to have a family.

My life is so different from those of the people I graduated high school with, I don’t feel connected with them at all and I don’t know if I would go a class reunion if we ever had one.

While a lot of people my age go to weddings, I go to funerals.

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